Page 1 of The worse week of my life.....

7 days ago my family were told that my mother "only had days, maybe weeks to live"
She`s been ill for more than two years, but was never treated for the cause, only the symptoms.
 
Blood transfusions every other week, over 20 ambulance 999 call-outs, hospital appointments  & tests almost every week, but never an answer as to why.

The last 999 call lead to her being admitted yet again. After four weeks in 5 different wards in two hospitals, my Mum was no longer conscious at any time.

At a family meeting with the doctor 7 days ago, we were told my Mum had "a massive cancer on her kidneys, beyond treatment"
Because she is unconscious, she can not eat or drink.

We have spent the last week watching her waste away.
Most of the time she was on an open ward with other patients watching & listening to everything being said & done because of the lack of privacy. 
We kept asking for her to be moved to a private room or a hospice but we were told there was none available.
After 6 days they finally moved her into a side room- but only because she was screaming nonsense while dreaming & disturbing the other patients.

She`s now being given morphine & is for the most part "at peace".
A priest was visited her & now we are just waiting.
This has been the longest, worst week of my life.

I`m having a real hard time sleeping for obvious reasons. And watching someone you love slowly dying is one hell of an appetite suppressant.

Watching my Dad is heartbreaking- all the time my Mum was being treated, he was upbeat about her getting better.

It has made the family closer than I think we have ever been.

I`m sorry if this has been upsetting to anyone here reading this, but I really needed to sit & write out the above.
The reason for me writing this is an outlet for the way I`m feeling atm.
I don`t know if I will post in this thread again.
Thanks, Patrick

This item was edited on Friday, 22nd July 2011, 21:14

Hi Pat

There`s nothing I can say which will help but save to say I`m sorry for the hurt.

Had similar with my Dad but he was allowed home.

He knew, and he was arguing politics with me the day before he succumbed.

I hope your mum is in no pain and that she is able know the love of her family.

Be strong for your Dad.

Thoughts and prayers,

Mike.



[Google have marked freeimagehosting.net as a hoster of malware, therefore this link has been removed]

Pat - I`m very sorry to hear that news. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Miles

I`m really sorry to hear about your mum.

I hope she isn`t in pain and that your family can stay strong and close together.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Thinking of you & your family. My mother had cancer & I went through what you are going through. You are not alone. It`s a terrible time but you will pull through it. Paul.

Pat my thoughts are with you.

I know what you mean with regards to posting about what`s happening on here, it can be a way to relieve the pressure.

I know all the regulars thoughts are with you.

www.last.fm/user/1mills

Hey Pat, I know how you feel - although circumstances are different too Mum I had to watch my old fella destroy himself with booze over many years, the warning signs came when he had his first heart attack and the realization that if he didn`t get a grip he would pass, sadly he didn`t get a grip, carried on drinking as he had all his life and a week after signing himself out of hospital was found dead in his car - he`d been there over night.

I`d like to call him a selfish bastard, I`d like to have just one more pint and a smoke with him but most of all I`d like to tell him I loved him all of which I can`t (and didn`t do) and that`s a pain I`ll carry for a long time. I know it`s a heartbreaking time but don`t lose the chance to have a chat even if mum`s sleeping.

Off to wipe my tears..

====================================

"So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then, when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable."
- Christopher Reeve (1953-2004)

Thoughts are with you Pat.



IN MADNESS YOU DWELL

:(

Take care Pat, sorry about your week. :/


Editor
DVD REVIEWER
MYREVIEWER.COM

My Flickr Photostream

Dunno what to say Pat.
Can`t fathom how the last couple of years must have taken it`s toll on you but I can relate to your current situation.
I had similar with my Dad when I was 13, I was the only family member who could clean up and help him and at the time I just "did it"... looking back now I don`t know if I could do it again.

I know this is only virtual, but have a {{{ hug }}} mate and know we are all thinking of you and your family.


Jimbo : oÞ

"There`s that word again... is there a problem with the Earth`s gravitational pull in the future?"